First of all, congrats on being a great mum :)

I'm a little confused as to your goal though, are you trying to teach your kids that whatever they want, goes? If they don't want to leave the park but you have to go, you'll just stay at the park until they're ready to leave? But then, if they don't want to do their homework or practice reading, again it's something you won't enforce? And if they don't want to sit in class, but want to go and play - the teacher should respect their choices? If all their life they're used to getting their way, it'll be traumatizing for them when the teacher refuses to let them do their own thing.

It's important to clarify the difference between areas where you can model boundaries and asking for consent, and areas where they have to learn to listen to authority - parents and later teachers.

It's up to you to make important decisions for your child, and enforce them so that they learn to listen. But when it comes to areas such as sharing their toys, deciding what to eat first, choosing what to wear, deciding between options for an outing - these are areas where you can help them develop their decision-making skills and demonstrate that they get to choose their boundaries.

What do you think?